Comments on: ‘I Kissed A Girl Just To Try It’

By: Againstbigtime

Againstbigtime — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 02:46:59 +0000

I think, as an outsider, since I didn’t really grow up in a Western environment (well I lived in Germany till 9 years old) that it’s pretty bad. I think it’s definitely orchestrated on purpose to ruin society, I know many probably think this is too harsh, but it’s my opinion. Normalization makes people gradually start accepting little things more and more until eventually anything can become “normal”. I think male is for female and female for male, maybe because of my religious background but I truly do feel that it’s the way nature should be. Eventhough animals do it sometimes, we are humans with an evolved brain for a reason! Seriously, think about what other things could be normalized. My request is keep your eyes open because someone might be abusing you and your families and your identity maybe only for a profit or some other reasons. I speak as an outsider, eventhough many outsiders might consider it ok. I don’t. I have a deep conviction. I am currently broken up with my gf because she did stuff like that. She says it was just an experiment while drunk (happened a few times) but still, I can never be sure so I guess one should always consider the future consequences for people you might be hurting one day because of stepping out of line. Evolving and experimenting and making mistakes is okay sometimes, but ask yourself: where is the line. Now it’s probably somewhere beyond this issue, but years later it would be way too far, but yet “normalized”..Wake up!

By: Michael B. Music, I.M.D.

Michael B. Music, I.M.D. — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 01:36:54 +0000

Grace and Peace,
Good evening YPulse friends,

As a middle-school boy in St. Louis ( circa 1957 ) I loved Paul Anka.
In “Diana” he sung ” I’m so young and you’re so old . . ” and this seemed to affirm my connection as a 13-year old with a woman about 20 who ” picked my cherry ” and was a regular ( weekly ) element of my life for about 10 months.
But, in another song Paul sang ” put your head on my shoulder “. And I would dream of my head on a guy’s shoulder or a guy’s head on mine .. and it took another nine years for me to figure out that this wasn’t ” just a phase “.
Music has much to teach us, if only we can understand.

Be well,

Michael B. Music, I.M.D.
(415) 431-1905

By: Bria

Bria — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:54:13 +0000

i like the beat and stuff but the words r a lil weird

By: Howard Owens

Howard Owens — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 00:50:47 +0000

How radical is this … think of “Willie and the Hand Jive,” or “Shake, Rattle and Roll,” which contained the pretty overt sexual refernece: “I’m like a one-eyed cat peepin’ in a seafood store.”

Though that wasn’t the line Bill Haily felt complelled to change … he changed “Well, you wear low dresses, the sun comes shining through” to “Wearin’ those dresses, your hair done up so nice” …

Even “In the Mood” was considered overly sexual when it came out.

I remember in the 1960s, when I was a kid, one of my church-going peers being oftened by a song where a girl talked about being “hot,” and “baby, you light my fire” was really over the top.

By: faith

faith — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 21:35:16 +0000

great post. I just wonder if it’s the teens ahead of the media or the media (or pop culture, take your pick) pushing it more and the teens pick up on it and of course think it’s normal. I don’t think we’ll ever know the exact answer to that. but I’d love to hear some speculation.

By: Keri

Keri — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 21:24:02 +0000

I do think it’s a combination of all of these things. For some girls, it’s show and spectacle. For others, it’s just not a big deal. For others it’s a real true passion which may be for just one specific girl, for both girls and guys, or potentially just for girls. (I say potentially because I thought I had read that girls tend to come out at later ages than guys and at this point they might not have all the answers. I could be wrong on this.)

I think Paige on Degrassi is a good example of this. She truly had feelings for Alex and while Alex later identified as a lesbian, Paige was kind of like, guy/girl whatever.

I do think girls kissing to attract male attention is a negative thing, but the teens who look at sexuality as more fluid than gay and straight is definitely a positive thing.

By: Adam Lehman

Adam Lehman — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 18:12:30 +0000

i think, very much so, that the normalizing of girl/girl experimentation is the result of the porn industry’s effect on society.

great article.

By: Tommy2

Tommy2 — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 16:33:31 +0000

Great job nailing the key points on this one. Especially the culture and where they define ‘sexy’. Which you could also say means ‘attention’.

The one thing I tend to run into is that with Gay Marriage most teens say it’s fine as long as ‘they’ don’t bother me. Which infers a prejudice.

In addition to that if you get into a deeper discussion regarding the topic they tend to change their mind.

By: Mommy B

Mommy B — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 16:19:58 +0000

I’ve been catching this song a lot on satellite radio and man is it contagious! It just makes you want to dance!

As far as girls kissing, it certainly has become a bit of a trend lately hasn’t it? I don’t have an issue with girls loving girls; and experimentation is a necessary part of life. But now, it’s getting harder to tell the difference between girls experimenting out of natural curiosity and girls who are just doing it because guys think it’s sexy or because it’s trendy. In a way, it sort of trivializes the plight of the kids who really are questioning their sexuality or struggling with the task of coming out to a resistant family.

Or could this make it easier for them? I’m not sure. Interested to hear other views.